Brian D
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Hello,
Unsure if this is a appropriate place to vent but I want to put my thoughts into words somewhere.
Christmas day my father passed at the age of 57 after a near two week fight with Covid 19 that lead to lower lug infection, than Kidney failure, and finally his heart gave out. He was a very healthy man going to the gym and eating well.
He leaves behind a loving family and home. My mom, sister, our dog Oakley and myself.
You can not change what happen, nor can you say what if... What if we did this, what if we went to this hospital, what if we took it more seriously earlier on.
As it all sets in I don't know who needs to hear this but life can change in a moments notice. If you have a family and kids make sure you have everything in line so if this day ever comes everyone has a better idea what to do. We don't know where my dad whats to be buried, what suit he wants to be in, and so much more. I know it sounds dumb if you to are a 50+ year old who feels healthy but if you where to pass tomorrow make sure your family knows your wishes.
Now for my regrets... as i go through my cell phone I notice that I don't have many photos, nor videos, or even sounds of his voice. I wish I had spent more time with him or found hobbies to connect with him more. We had a good relationship, but I spent to much time in my room playing league of legends vs being at the dinner table with my family. I also regret being 28 years old without a girlfriend / wife. The biggest gift my sister or I could of given him would of been grandkids as it was the next step in his life that he was looking so forward to.
My msg to those with kids. Please don't think you will live forever. Make a audio recording and put it aside so that your voice can be heard again. There is nothing I'd love more than to have a 30sec audio clip of him telling me he loves me and how proud of me he was. Take more photos and videos. Find stuff your kids like and try to find a hobby to do together.
Unsure if this is a appropriate place to vent but I want to put my thoughts into words somewhere.
Christmas day my father passed at the age of 57 after a near two week fight with Covid 19 that lead to lower lug infection, than Kidney failure, and finally his heart gave out. He was a very healthy man going to the gym and eating well.
He leaves behind a loving family and home. My mom, sister, our dog Oakley and myself.
You can not change what happen, nor can you say what if... What if we did this, what if we went to this hospital, what if we took it more seriously earlier on.
As it all sets in I don't know who needs to hear this but life can change in a moments notice. If you have a family and kids make sure you have everything in line so if this day ever comes everyone has a better idea what to do. We don't know where my dad whats to be buried, what suit he wants to be in, and so much more. I know it sounds dumb if you to are a 50+ year old who feels healthy but if you where to pass tomorrow make sure your family knows your wishes.
Now for my regrets... as i go through my cell phone I notice that I don't have many photos, nor videos, or even sounds of his voice. I wish I had spent more time with him or found hobbies to connect with him more. We had a good relationship, but I spent to much time in my room playing league of legends vs being at the dinner table with my family. I also regret being 28 years old without a girlfriend / wife. The biggest gift my sister or I could of given him would of been grandkids as it was the next step in his life that he was looking so forward to.
My msg to those with kids. Please don't think you will live forever. Make a audio recording and put it aside so that your voice can be heard again. There is nothing I'd love more than to have a 30sec audio clip of him telling me he loves me and how proud of me he was. Take more photos and videos. Find stuff your kids like and try to find a hobby to do together.